Tag: authenticity

“We think too much and feel too little …”

I really do try hard to see the good in everyone. I have to believe it to be true but as I watch the accusations being thrown around gender issues and how people seem to need to find someone to blame, someone to punish,…

Beneath male anger there lies a whole lot of fear

“We are suspended, rudderless, between our long history of male privilege and the newer, more diverse masculinities emerging from decades of social and economic upheaval.” Mark Greene Over the past few weeks I have been talking to a lot of men about men’s issues….

Don’t measure me

Don’t measure me by the size of my dick Don’t measure me by the strength of my anger Don’t measure me by the ferocity of my own destruction Don’t measure me by the cost or power of the car I drive The size of…

I am 5 – vulnerability in the workplace

Its 5 years (23rd June) since I suffered a heart-attack. Described on my medical records as a ‘significant episode followed by a series of major complications’ over a 4 hour period my heart had to be restarted 3 times. My wife was told that…

Gratitude is the Beginning or Worthiness

One of the leading contributors to male depression and suicide is a sense of worthlessness which, in turn, can be generated by misconceptions around what it is to me a ‘man’. This misconception is another leading contributor to male suicide. Believing that someone would want to…

Sam Elliot

Actor Sam Elliott was so cool and so damn tough. He had a certain look; a full head of dark hair, bushy, strong eyebrows and a big mustache. Tanned, slightly leathered skin. The characters he played were cowboys or bikers. A man of few…

I wish that it didn’t have to be this way

Its surprising how many men are struggling to deal with depression, low mood, self doubt. anxiety and all that emotional stuff that we are so bad at dealing with. I talk of men because it are mostly men that I discuss these issues with. I have…