Tag: masculinity

ending Violence

Posted on March 15, 2021 by Graeme

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I have, for a while now, been struggling with the call to end, or stop, violence against women. Yes, we should do that and of that there can be no debate. But for me its not just about just stopping violence against women. Women… Continue Reading “ending Violence”

Category: UncategorizedTags: abuse, domestic violence, feminism, harm, masculinity, men, toxicmasculinity, violence

Posted on March 7, 2021 by Graeme

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There is no beer in the universe full-bodied enough to make you like yourself!

Category: UncategorizedTags: alcohol, belonging, drink, gender, masculinity

Posted on August 7, 2020 by Graeme

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Category: UncategorizedTags: anger, domestic violence, harm, masculinity, men, toxicmasculinity, violence

When did you become a man?

Posted on June 20, 2020 by Graeme

I was with a group of men earlier this week when the question was asked, “when did you first realise that you had become a man? Was it when you smoked your first cigarette, your first kiss, your first car, leaving school or leaving… Continue Reading “When did you become a man?”

Category: UncategorizedTags: gender, growing up, masculinity, men, struggle, vulnerability

In 1991 I was called to the Ministry of Health. They wanted to brief me on a piece of work to do with the National Cervical Screening Campaign, about to be launched in New Zealand for the first time.

In a startling revelation, the woman with whom I was meeting for the first time, said “we know that more men die each year from prostate cancer than women die from cervical cancer. Yet, we chose to do this (the National Cervical Screening Campaign) because we know that men are less likely to make a fuss.”

Around 27 years later, here in New Zealand 50 women die each year from cervical cancer. Way too many.

600 men die of prostate cancer in New Zealand each year and we don’t make a fuss.

We are men. We have the scars to prove it.