I am a man
it takes an entire village to raise a man
Without Victim Blaming
Mental or physical abuse is unacceptable under any circumstance.
Domestic violence has to be stopped. Male vs female abuse has to stop. Female vs male abuse has to stop.
I don’t want to debate which gender is the worst nor which gender suffers the most.
Provocateurs, of any gender, are a part of the problem. Perhaps as big a part of the problem as the abusers.
It is not okay to provoke someone or to give-up your personal responsibility to keep yourself safe and then cry victim when you get hurt.
It is not okay to hang out with a ‘wrong’ crowd and expect to feel safe and protected. You have no ‘rights’ to feel safe if you are not willing to take even the most basic of steps to protect yourself.
It is not okay to somehow expect that everyone around you stay perfectly in control of themselves in order to afford you protection when you cannot always predict what you might do. We surprise and disappoint ourselves with our own behaviour and yet we expect that we can act as we wish and that no one else does.
It is not okay to provoke someone that you know has anger problems.
It is not okay to provoke someone that struggles to express their feelings .
It is not okay to provoke someone who is feeling overwhelmed or scared.
It is not okay to provoke someone who is feeling trapped and on the verge of “losing it”.
It is not okay to provoke someone and then mock them for a ‘weak’ response.
It is not okay to use put-down humour.
It is not okay to deliberately provoke someone by targeting a weakness, something that you know they struggle with, struggle to control.
It is not okay and it is not humane.
Stay safe!
I am a man 
Sometimes we victim blame without even knowing it.
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